Conflicts are unavoidable.
Conflicts under love yield Godly consequences.
Conflicts under hatred yield evil consequences.
Once upon a time, there were two boys from two families. Conflicts with their fathers accumulated as they are growing up.
One of the boys loved his father very much and his father loved him very much. They are very close, and conflicts developed from being too close for comfort.
The other boy resented his father for living up to his expectations, and the father was mostly absent while he was growing up but spoiled him out of false love. Conflicts developed from hostilities.
The boys became men.
The man who had conflicts under love was spiritually and psychologically healthier in general, and lived an authentic life.
The man who had conflicts under hatred was spiritually and psychologically malformed, and lived a split life.